Rev. Dal McCrindle - "Without Love, Nothing" January 30, 2022
Recent research indicates that, in part at least, what we call “falling in love” can be attributed to the presence in the body of a drug called ‘phenyle-thylamine,” that is a form of natural amphetamine. Imagine if Cole Porter had known about this he could have written a song, “I get a phenyle-thylamine out of you.” The problem is as research also reveals, many build up a tolerance for this chemical in about two to four years.
Back in early 70’s the movie, “love story” caused a huge impact on churches, especially weddings. Remember? love means you never have to say you are sorry.”
In the movie, the characters played by Alley McGraw and Ryan O’Neill decide to get married over the advice of his overbearing father. So soon after they pledge their love and get married in this three or four Kleenex-movie, she is diagnosed with a terminal illness. During their wedding ceremony, they say their vows to each other without prompting which caused hundreds of thousand brides and grooms across North America to try to do the same thing. Fortunately, the screen writers for Love Story didn’t have the characters say too stupid things as did happen in churches all across the country, but they did have them say, that they would be committed as husband and wife “as long as their love would last.” Seemed alright at the time, until you started to think about it. What happens when they wake up one day and don’t feel so much in love as they did on their wedding day. Is it over?
We all know something about love. We sing about it, read about it and dream about it. Without love, you are nothing. With love, you have everything. Love is greater than faith and hope. We know that, we’ve read it in the Bible. Paul says so!
So often in the church whenever we speak about love, we soon get to talking about marriage. Love and marriage go together like a horse and carriage. Love, marriage and commitment.
How often have you heard in wedding ceremonies, the minister drone on about all you really need to remember in your marriage is to love one another. Love overcomes everything, only love matters? Paul said it. The Beattles sang about it, “Love is all you need.”
Perhaps because our culture has so twisted and perverted that word, “love,” we need to take care in our thoughts about it. In a couple of weeks we will celebrate Valentine’s Day, a day surely dreamt up by the florists and greeting card manufacturers, in which it appears that romantic love is the cure for everything that ails us.
But Paul who was begging the feuding Christians at Corinth to get along, now begs them to love one another. Yet Paul does so in the context of their commitment to Christ. Love, Christian love, is a sign of our relationship to Christ, not the cause of it. We love, because God in Christ has loved us.
In the wedding service, I never ask the groom, do you love the bride. We ask, will you love her, will you love him? Love is spoken of in the future tense. Most couples probably think they are getting married because they love each other. Yet, the service suggests that love is the result of their commitment in marriage rather than its cause. Love is the fruit of marriage.
So in marriage, in the church, in any of our human relationships, we do not believe that love is all we need. At first glance it appears that Paul is just speaking about love, love, love but he goes further and says that love endures. Love will never come to an end. How many marriages that began with love end with anger and divorce?
The person who says, “the Christian faith can be summed up in just three words, ‘ God is love,’” hasn’t quite got it right. God is not only love, certainly not as we often say that slippery word. God is commitment, faithfulness even when we are not faithful. The Old Testament frequently speaks, not just about love, but of the steadfast love of God which endures forever. It is not a deep feeling that makes love Christian, but long-term endurance. So we ask God’s blessing on our marriages and our relationships. Love is not all we need. We need God, loving us, forgiving us, judging and correcting, enabling us to pick up and start over again.
The good thing about today's reading from Corinthians is that we all know it and love it. The bad thing about today's epistle is that we all know it and love it.
Along with Lord's Prayer, the 23 Psalm and the Ten Commandments and maybe the Beatitudes and Ecclesiastes, this Chapter of Paul's letter ranks right up there as people’s favorite.
You might remember that Paul had written about spiritual gifts and described the composition of the church as the living body of Christ; an organism that needs all its parts and all its gifts with which God has blessed it. He stated that the value of each part was to be measured by God and not by us, no matter how dispensable or indispensable any body part appears to be -- all are needed and of utmost importance!
But in spite of the wonderful spiritual and tangible gifts that God gives, the one enduring quality which God ushers forth in us is LOVE. Most certainly, those who marry, speak of love and hope for a never-ending relationship of affection and mutuality. But for far too many, love in marriage fades and much too often, ends. To speak of Paul's letter only in the context of marriage trivializes and minimizes its intent. For Paul's letter on love speaks about God's way with us and God's will for us and our response to such a love. It is appropriately read and reflected upon at weddings but should not be limited to marriage.
Whatever we may say, or do; however we might do it or say it; without love at its core, according to God's standards, whatever we do is meaningless. The world may fall at our feet; principalities and powers may honour us; the crowds may flock to see and hear us, but if our activity is not offered with love, God knows it is trivial and false. Prophecies will end. In time, we’ll know whether the great words and predictions of our leaders were true or not. We might even honour such peoples as modern day prophets, but only love provides the enduring hope for the future. Tongues pass away, amazing knowledge soon becomes commonplace for everyone. And in relation to God, the creator and sustainer of all things, what is any knowledge, or wisdom, power or might?
What do I trust? What do you trust? What is it that we value most of all: advancement in technology? the mighty attraction of wealth and all that money can buy? the accolades of peers? the realization that we do in fact control our part of the world, society, business, church, family? or the sense that we have succeeded well or that we have remained pure?
Luke tells us that the people of the Nazareth synagogue rejected Jesus after he reflected on Isaiah's message that Good News was about to come to the poor, the oppressed, the imprisoned and the disabled. He highlighted that God cared and love those outside the special closeness of Israel. They had placed their trust in being the descendants of Abraham. They looked to their own security and importance and power. They had trivialized their day-to-day existence in relationship to their neighbours. They had come to understand their specialness in who they were, heirs of Abraham and Moses rather than what they were, children of God. God's nature and purpose for creation was thus trivialized; made small and foolish. They rejected the example of Jesus because he challenged their assumptions, their prejudices and their trivialization. Jesus lived a life of enduring love, no matter where it led, no matter what it called him to do, no matter whom it begged him to serve. At first, those in the synagogue were impressed by his words. They had heard that passage many times, it spoke of a glorious day when God's salvation would change everything for them. They probably appreciated how well Jesus read those words. They may have recalled that he was Joseph's boy, remembering incidents from his youth but when he suggested that they had taken this prophecy for granted, that the heavenly gifts do not automatically come to those of the Temple, they were outraged. They no longer wanted to listen to these words with which they could not agree.
The words of Jesus, the counsel of Paul, the vision of Jeremiah are still rejected by many in society and many even in the church, though we might appreciate how well the words are read. We discredit the speakers or dismiss their advice as being too conservative, too liberal, too political, not political enough, coming from one too young or too old. We trivialize the gospel, sentimentally looking for niceties, cleanliness and crispness without ambiguity, or areas of gray, without mess.
Like Peter, we eagerly accept the challenge to follow Jesus wherever he may choose to go but want to stop short of suffering which for Jesus and for many was a cross. For Peter, the cross was a pathway of defeat, a road of weakness, a way to destruction. But for Jesus, the way of the cross was the way of obedience, of truth and of love. It is, he says, the way for the church. It is to be the sign of the enduring love of God and in no way can we minimize its danger.
God does not call us to love just a little, but with our whole heart, our whole soul, our whole strength, Jesus is our portrait and our benchmark, our example for faithful living.
Like Roman Catholics, I appreciate the symbolism and imagery of the crucifix and choose to hang one in my office and home. Not that I have forgotten the wonderful emphasis on the resurrection which the Reformed Church has made, with an empty cross but so that I do not forget nor trivialize the suffering way and the loving way which Jesus chose, and the suffering which many of Christ's body presently endure.
Trivialize its cost and the world shall take the church, you and I, and even God for granted. Those important characters of history for us are not the powerful nor necessarily the mighty ones, nor those endowed with wealth or wonderful abilities, but are those who are related to Christ Jesus ... and have been willing to walk the walk -- the way of Christ, the way which led to a hill, on which crosses were erected.
We are called to be about the business of our God, not seeking to be martyred, although well aware of the risk, to live love, for God so loves. Behold I have put these words in your mouth. This day, I the Lord have set you over the nations and over kingdoms, to pluck up and break down, to destroy and to overthrow, to build and to plant ... and while so planting: faith, hope and love abide, these three but the greatest of these is love. At least that’s the way I see it!